Astrology is best summarized as the study of the positions and movements of the celestial bodies, in the belief that these bodies do have an influence on the course of natural and serendipitous occurrences on Earth - and human affairs. Astrology based predictions can be used effectively, according to experts, to predict and especially to navigate many aspects of our lives such as business, romance, money, jobs, etc. It can also be used to understand key and supportive energy to enhance the success of the individual. The precise impacts of the planetary motions on our day to day lives - can't and shouldn't be entirely ruled out, especially since millions and millions of people successfully use Astrology to navigate their lives every day.
For many human beings the world over, marriage is viewed and upheld as a sacred institution. Marriage equates to the union of two hearts, minds, bodies, and of course souls. It's often said in many cultures that "marriages are made in heaven". Which depending on how you view and uphold Astrology and its various far reaching impacts on the affairs, coincidences, and serendipitous occasions that people share - it could be said that Astrology is the hand of heaven which helps to guide marriages into fruition. Many people use the assistance of Astrological predictions, to better understand the compatibility of the couple - and ascertain or make certain a healthy and growth centric match is assured. In many societies in the world, horoscopes are looked at and matched before a marriage can take place.
There are a few key areas to look for romantic matching and synergy within the horoscope. Once the match between key parts of the horoscope, especially the Sun and Moon signs, Venus and Mars signs, and North Node and placements of the 5th and 7th house are assured...it is also quite common in many parts of the world to consult Astrologers to determine the most ideal and auspicious date and time for the marriage ceremony. As the horoscopes of the prospective bride and groom tell a great deal about each person's past, present, and future. The matching of horoscopes can also guide the astrologer on the dates which are best to be avoided. There are many periods which the influence of planets which are in a malefic (or negative) energy pattern is quite strong, and Astrologers would seek to avoid that. The marriages which are unionized during these malefic energetic periods may not last for very long, or may be shaky, underwhelming, or wrought with bad fortune. Both the bride's and groom's horoscopes must be analyzed for how they play off of each other.
The first step to this assessment is looking at the date of birth, time of birth, as well as place of birth, for both the parties to be wed. There are a number of calculations performed to look at the angling of the planets to each other; and these angles can be called trines, squares, conjunctions, etc. It is believed that the planets and their positions leave an energetic imprint on each of us when we are born, and in the case of matrimonial astrology it is reviewed how the energy imprints on each will interact and help the parties to learn lessons in life and evolve as souls. It is important to note that it is not necessary that the horoscopes be entirely compatible end to end. Some interactions which may be viewed as challenging or troubling, can actually be helpful for the couple in order to challenge them in a healthy way to grow. Additionally, certain corrective measures such as energetic healing, chakra balancing, and feng shui type measures in the home can help to correct energetic imbalances and ensure a smooth flow to the marriage ahead by enhancing energetic compatibility.
It has been observed time and time again that there are higher success rates of happy marriage in cases where the horoscopes were matched. Critics often have a differing opinion regarding the validity of this claim and the success rate of marriages. As the claims cannot wholly be disproved regarding the validity of astrology compatibility in order to select and provide for the most auspicious marriages - the notion that it isn't scientific but rather philosophical still has no bearing and doesn't take credit away from the practice of horoscope matching that is prevalent the world over.
My best friend recently returned from a trip to Bangkok, Thailand and Calcutta, India with too many tales to recount here. However, one tale I want to recount is the wonderful spiritual wellness treatment she put me on to called “shirodhara”. She described a charming scene in her luxury hotel spa suite where a guest can luxuriate around from station to station in the suite, experiencing a number of incredible spa treatments ranging from purely indulgent to purely spiritual and everywhere in between. I was most intrigued by the treatment of shirodhara because it sounded deliciously indulgent, and mind clarifying all at the same time. For someone like me, who is both always looking to unwind and always looking to gain an edge in business and in life - this seemed intriguing indeed.
The name comes from the Sanskrit words “shiro” which means “head” and “dhara” which means “flow”. The name makes perfect sense given that shirodhara is a spiritual tuneup for the third eye; often regarded as the very seat of human consciousness. Shirodhara is the method of third eye massage, through either pouring drips of water, milk, or buttermilk... or by pouring drips of oil onto a laying patients third eye - located in the pineal gland within the forehead. The rhythmic nature of the drips - if administered by a particularly in tune practitioner or by a times device can be synced with the natural rhythm and wavelength that the third eye vibrates at. In addition to the rhythm, the central focus on the third eye helps the individual receiving the treatment to focus on their third eye which helps to strengthen it. This treatment can be offered alone, or can be part of a specific panchakarma treatment detoxification regimen. In Ayurveda it is also common place to select an oil for the treatment which has properties which balance the client's dosha.
According to Ayurveda Next Door's write up, "Stress, according to Ayurveda, is a state of imbalance of prana vayu, sadaka pitta, and tarpaka kapha. Shirodhara reestablishes the functional integrity between these three doshic subtypes and thus helps alleviate stress."
Beyond just the metaphysical tuning this treatment provides, it also helps to regulate function between the hypothalamus, pineal gland, and pituitary glands. Disruptions in these areas of the body can lead to imbalances and afflictions commonly known in the Western world as shift worker sleep disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, insomnia, and simple jet lag. As these disordered sleep or disordered fear response conditions are caused by disregulation of the hypothalamus, pineal gland, or pituitary glands...it stands to reason that oil massage of these areas can help regulate the body into a clock work cycle which provides relief from these conditions.
The massage is highly regarded as one of the most valuable treatments in Ayurveda because it calms the overworked mind. Calming the mind and relaxing the body is absolutely essential in terms of balancing the mind, body, and spirit to maintain their ecosystem and thusly their seamless connection. Although I have never had this treatment, I look forward to experiencing one soon. Here’s to manifesting that into my life!
The careful interpretation of dreams by dream experts may be dated as far back as the advent of dreaming itself. We know that all human beings of every age, and many animals indeed, engage in a cycle of dreams every night. As a result of this humans have always been fascinated to learn what causes dreams and what the symbolism, colors, visuals, auxiliary characters and occurrences mean.
The art and science of the interpretation of dreams dates back at least as far as 3000-4000 B.C. We know this to be true because in ancient times aforementioned, the interpretations of people's professed dreams were captured in a permanent recorded form on clay tablets. It is commonly believed that many primitive people were essentially unable to initially distinguish between the real world and the dream world - and perhaps saw no value in doing so. In many cases, these people looked upon the dream world as an extension of the physical world around them, and in many cases they saw the dream world as more powerful than the waking one. The dream world provided for them extra clues, extra guidance and wisdom that could be used to navigate the physical world. A concept still prevalent in native and indigenous cultures the world over, whose wisdom and experience of the natural and supernatural world has thankfully been untarnished by time or changing lifestyles.
It is thought that dream interpretation was such an important asset to the ancient Greek and Roman world that dream interpreters were given special roles, and often accompanied generals and other notable military leaders into battles. Dreams were taken very very seriously, and the Greeks and Romans (in particular and to a greater degree) often interpreted dreams as messages sent by their gods. Messages of particular importance for the individual to guide their daily affairs and make decisions about their fate.
Dreams also had a religious context in ancient Egypt, and as no surprise priests of the era and region doubled as dream interpreters. Dreams were among the items recorded by the ancient Egyptians in the form of hieroglyphics. Individuals whose dreams were described as distinctly vivid or significant in terms of content or ability to be prophetic were thought to be blessed and were given special elevated status in this ancient and highly spiritual society. In turn, people who were blessed with the ability to interpret dreams were believed to receive these gifts directly from the gods, and in turn they enjoyed a special status in society as well.
Not surprisingly, there are over 700 mentions of dreams in the bible, and people in biblical times regarded dreams as very significant. Dreams and their interpretations are mentioned in many of the most significant books of the bible, and help to provide greater credence to the belief that those whom have prophetic dreams or vivid visions are truly having divinely guided experiences. As a common and prevalent aspect of society then, dreams were often seen as a form of prophecy. People often interpreted their dreams as omens or warnings, and adjusted their activities accordingly based upon the symbology or interactions within the dreams. Dreams were often thought of as distinct good or bad omens from deities, as messages from other types spirits, or as messages and salutations from departed souls. In some cases, dreams were even seen as the work of demons, and the visions within the dreams were meant to confuse and trouble the dreamer. A belief that is still upheld by many the world over, across many different religious and spiritual backgrounds.
Dreams were seen as vitally important because it was believed that they often dictated the actions of political and military leaders, thereby affecting everything from the outcome of a battle to the laying of a political decision. In the bounds of healing, dreams were also thought to provide directional and indicative clues to healers, and they were used in the diagnosis and treatment of many types of illness.
Dreaming was often viewed by indigenous cultures as a way to commune and communicate directly with gods and spirits, and dreams and meditative states as well as visions are still used in this way by cultures all around the world and of diverse spiritual perspectives. Many people believed, and many many people still do, that during our dreaming stage of sleep the soul leaves the body and communes with the spirit world - a realm just outside of but occasionally overlapping with our waking one.
The ancient Chinese people were one such culture that deeply believed that the individual's soul left the body each and every night at the time of dream based sleep. These people believed that if the dreamer were suddenly to be awakened, that the soul may not be able to return to the body very easily. It is for this reason that some traditionally spiritual Chinese people are still leery about the use of alarm clocks even in the modern day. This is but one single example of how ancient legends can make a tremendous impact on current day people and mindsets.
Mexican and Native American societies BOTH share this ancient view of the importance of dreams, and also shared the deeply held belief in a separate and distinct dimension that is visited during the dream cycle portion of our sleep. People believed that their departed ancestors lived on in their dreams, and that they were able to take forms like animals and plants to communicate, guide, and lead. As a result of these beliefs, dreams were seen as a way for the dreamer to commune with their recent and ancient ancestors, and to gather wisdom and knowledge that could best position them and their decision making in their waking lives. Dreams were considered as means in which to gather information about the individual's purpose or individual mission in life.
A deep respect for dreams shifted radically early in the 19th century, and dreams in that era were often dismissed as reactions to anxiety, outside noises, or even bad food (a common question in Western society to be asked of a person describing a nightmare). It was during this period of time that dreams were thought to have no meaning at all, and interest in dream interpretation tapered off in Western society to almost a whisper. This downward trend all changed with the arrival of Sigmund Freud later in the 19th century. Sigmund Freud stunned the world of psychiatry by stressing the importance of dreams, and he revived the once dead art of dream interpretation - introducing an entire generation in the Western world to the notion of paying attention to the messages, visitations, participants, locations, and symbols in their dreams.
Throughout the many years of our lives, each of us accumulates a series of diverse and rich experiences. Our natural inclination is to evaluate and simply reflect on what we have been through and even more importantly what we have learned. This introspective look within into what we can no longer see with our physical eyes or sense with our external senses allows us to hone in on the true inner self, our inner essence. This inner essence is what we seek to tap into and begin listening to based on the methods in "Inner Glow Up".
Numerous schools of thought teach about the concept of self-actualization. Which I have always defined simply as "realizing the actual self". This is our journey in life, the destination isn't to some idealized paradise or conceived of place but rather it is our journey home. It is the journey into the spacial quality of existence that initially brought us into this world. It is the journey of what is leading us through this life and therefore it is the journey back to where it all began. Like a an endless, perfect circle.
Many upon closer reflection could say that the infant and the elderly are more soul than body. As you and I develop our personality and thusly ego, it is then that we begin to think we are somebody. Ram Dass comically refers to this as "somebody training." As we begin to move into the phase of adulthood, we begin to think we are real and act on this "somebody" that we have trained. When we actually do mature, we go into a state that Ram Dass has also comically referred to as "nobody training".
The great paradox of life is that we spend a great deal of time learning to develop independence from infancy only to lose it again as we steadily age and then die. Our lives are a journey from innocence to supreme grace. The human expression is a journey with many ups and downs. What keeps us on track is the authentic call of our own soul, the aspect of self that has the blueprint for what we are to do in this life. The true blueprint and yearnings of the inner soul gives us strength to do the impossible and give us hope when there is none. Locating and discovering this inner guiding light was my individual journey, and to turn about and teach the method of uncovering that never failed me was part of my mission to serve others. That's why I wrote Inner Glow Up, and have begun adapting course materials to serve as a more personal approach to the same teachings.
The journey was not one of sunshine and endless light, as anyone on a spiritual awakening path can attest. All parts of the self, both dark and light, need to be embraced with equal measures of gentle scrutiny and unconditional love. This gentleness and firmness is the something inside us striving for the satisfaction and freedom found in perfecting our true nature and fitting ourselves to our truest purpose.. Our authentic and innermost self knows we are GROWING through life and simply going through life at the same time.
This delicate balance between these two forces of nature and understanding their polarities helps us to never get too caught up in the moment, yet paradoxically keeps us breathing and moving forward living perfectly in the now. This blend of knowing we are ourselves in this life, and yet also a broader larger energetic being who has had countless lives of which this is only one character on one stage and merely one vantage point enables us to stay on our path. Supreme cognizance and at the same time, supreme focus. It is the path best described as knowing who we are through the various experiences and expressions of our life; and the higher self's divine guidance meant only for this immediate and current expression is the one which we seek to understand and connect with through the methods described in Inner Glow Up. In doing this sacred work, we learn to trust in our own soul and find direction there...when direction in life is not present and sorely lacking. I wrote Inner Glow Up to act as an uncovering method to separate and sieve out anything in your energy field, in your life, and in your mindset that should keep you from hearing your true inner guidance.
In this day and age, you may find more people choosing to seek guidance from a psychic than from psychologist, therapist, or even from a priest or clergy member. Often times the advice of the priest is too restrictive and, in some parts of the world, the church's views don't keep up with modern life and modern problems. Psychological therapy or counseling, for some is too expensive and could even feel too all consuming on occasion - with people fearing they are expected to commit to 6-8 sessions on a particular topic. People seem to find the idea of a psychic reading more approachable and often times more helpful.
When you call a psychic helpline or contact a psychic through online booking, you get to talk to a professional psychic that is attentive to your concerns and likely sees their gifts as their purpose for being in this world. The psychic will diligently listen to you and then will ask for a few questions in order to be able to clarify what they are receiving in your psychic reading. While many may call because they just need someone to talk to, one usually calls because they are looking for specific advice which comes through in the psychic reading.
1. A psychic reading can be MORE confidential, as you can contact them via phone lines or through online book services. You never have to meet them, because the energy can be detected via distance - it's energy!
A psychic reading via distance appears to have many benefits. Firstly, as with other forms of counseling, it helps people balance the responsibility of personal decisions from themselves to a “professional” psychic, to someone outside the situation, who may offer a new perspective. Psychics are experts at reading energy and may illuminate aspects of the actions and words of other third parties in your life that may have been previously unknown or unexplored. Psychics, especially those whose gifts come from being empaths, are astute at determining the intent of others and sussing out the truth of any situation.
Another key perk of receiving psychic guidance via distance through a phone line or through a recorded video sent to you at a later time is that this method offers more confidentiality than any other form of counseling: the person at the other end of the line or email will not know who you are and you don’t have to face the psychic you talk to. In addition, leveraging the assistance of a psychic may be cheaper than more traditional forms of counseling. We are in an era where the Western world is beginning to see how astutely a psychic or spiritual adviser can assist you with life's matters.
2. A psychic uses few details to tap into your energy.
A psychic reading will typically start with the question you are interested in most. It's key to remember that the answer to this, and even more information will come through and many psychics like to share all that comes through for you. The personal information you must provide a psychic in order to get a psychic reading is usually related to your date and place of birth, or perhaps even other important dates in your life. Perhaps they will ask for your first name and initials, but typically the info you provide won't be too specific and many gifted people can pick up on your energy through connection and first name alone. The method your reading is delivered through depends on your psychic's preferred tools and methods, and to a lesser degree on whether you are interested in numerology or horoscopes, in Tarot or i-Ching, clairvoyance or dream interpretation as a guest.
3. Every psychic or gifted person uses different methods. Many use multiple methods.
A very popular form of psychic reading is a personal horoscope which can require as little as your date of birth and will provide you with info on key dates and key energetic shifts in your life. A similar form of psychic reading is the numerological chart, working with quite limited information too, and providing you with the main features of your individual fate or destiny. Other forms of psychic reading, for instance Tarot cards, may be done over the phone or via a video that the psychic records after tapping into your energy. Only for the case of aura reading would you perhaps need to be present with a psychic in the same room. Many can do this over video and as someone who can see auras, I would even say that video makes them more pronounced for some reason.
4. Just as there are gifted surgeons, there are quacks. Just as there are excellent financial advisors, there are swindlers. The psychic business is no different.
Although psychic helpline or psychic reading marketplace may be the easiest and most popular way to get a psychic reading, it's key to recall that there have been ample cases when a psychic helpline was proven to be set up to take advantage of people. Just like any profession or vocation, if there is money to be made from it - there will be people who set up fraudulent practices. A true psychic needs very little from you to give you info that you know, but they couldn't possibly have known. Many if not all of the psychics I have ever worked with have said the SAME thing about my personality - and my personality isn't gleanable on first meeting. I'm an Aries Sun, Virgo Rising so my demeanor is calm, detached, subdued, tidy....but my true nature as an Aries and ENTJ personality type is quite willful, a natural born leader, talkative, intense, and unrelenting. Those who are truly reading your energy know to provide you with a level of trust by telling you some things about your inner self that perhaps only YOU know. A fraud will work to get you to start talking to sponge details from you. There is a HUGE difference.
5. Psychics prefer to help you with YOUR development as a soul; and will generally NEVER tell you what you should do.
Before contacting any sort of psychic helpline and requesting your psychic reading, you might find it advisable to search for the answers within yourself and your own intuition. It is much more rewarding to try to develop the intuition and inner knowing for yourself - than to rely on psychics and their gifts. Everyone has a deeper inner knowing for their own situations and highest good - so it's key to tap into that. If you're interested in learning more about how to discover your own inner guidance...I've quite literally written the book on it. You can find details about Inner Glow Up, my first solo book in under "Books" in this website.. Of course, a psychic or spiritual adviser can help you illuminate aspects of the powers and energies at play that may not be known or shown to you - and can help you connect with your spirit guide or spiritual team. However, a truly gifted psychic will be most interested in showing you what may be unseen at the time and encouraging you to make decisions for yourself. A truly gifted psychic respects the balance of free will.
I felt the pull to book an acupuncture session. We all know those pulls, the gentle way a particular thought or encouragement tugs at us at times or comes treading in through the front door of our minds at a half run and invades every moment that we aren't actively focused on something else or away from the world in meditation. The thought that I needed to seek an acupuncturist was THAT intrusive.
In my searches I was lead time and time again to Spirit House Acupuncture and Herbal Medicine in Chicago. I would close my browser and then on a whim do another search for acupuncture and be lead right back to the practice. Perhaps it was something about the name, as the symbolism of the Thai or Khmer spirit house has a powerful meaning for me personally. In any case, there could be nowhere else that I booked this healing from.
It was a breath of fresh air connecting with Founder, Director and Chinese Medicine Physician Genna Louise Robinson. We connected instantly - her calm demeanor and wise (beyond her years may I add) eyes were instantly soothing. A welcome feeling, because I was about to have needles pushed just under my skin to prompt my energetic system to release all that didn't serve, in a process that can often be just as draining as it is cathartic and restorative.
Upon hearing about the recent loss of my grandmother, a loss I'm still reeling from and nursing day by day and discussing some digestive issues I felt I had been having - which caused irritating and relentless headaches....Genna had a plan. She also filled me in on the profound notion that perhaps my digestive issues weren't necessarily my commitment to sneaking in dairy despite being lactose intolerant but perhaps were instead caused by the fact that I couldn't swallow the truth and digest the idea and truth that my beloved grandmother was gone from at least this life. The thought alone and the gentle way she offered it up - allowing me to reach my conclusion on what it was that I was having trouble "digesting" in terms of a concept or new notion in life - were soothing and relaxing. It's always a joy to feel for a short moment that your unspoken pains and burdens are understood. It was a thought that hadn't crossed me, but now gave me a renewed hope that I could manage and work on this "digestive issue" that was really more about information and less about my predisposed inability to digest lactose properly.
As we moved into treatment, Genna paused to take my vitals and record them. In that moment we bonded over the notion that perhaps the universe really does bring people together to work on key healing and key turning points together. The air was humming with that golden hour glow of two people in alignment, in tune and vibing on the same notions. I drank it up.
Genna suggested to me that I do what is known as an Aggressive Energy removal acupuncture treatment to purge my major organs of any lingering energy or stagnant blocks that I may be carrying with me. She explained that "not everyone has this treatment" and that "those that do, may only have it once in their lives." Whatever the case, it absolutely felt right and sat well with me. The process involved a number of acupuncture needles inserted in pairs along my spine - each pair corresponding to my organs. The process was relatively pain free, but I would like to note that both that corresponded to my lungs hurt going in and coming out. Funny thing with the lungs, they hold our emotions of grief. A word I've become very intimate with in the last 90 days as I make sense of what comes next, how do I plan life knowing that she won't be there in the flesh.
I dosed off and had a number of strong epiphanies come to me during the process of allowing the energy to flow freely. Many things about my relationship with my partner, that up until that point had been leaves unturned came to me easily then. I quickly connected into that purple space in the inner vision, when your crown chakra is running on all 8 cylinders and traveling upwards like a pulse in your inner mind's eye. I often have that sensation in places of worship, temples, upon first waking up, and in the deeper meditations that I traverse in my own space.
Walking out of the clinic, I felt buzzy and fumbly. I felt like my energy was oozing out of me and going outwards by 2-3 feet in every direction. I felt the distinct calm but dulled senses feeling that comes with energetic work. As I shared on IG, I heard my inner voice say "You have to walk in your body." as I crossed the crosswalk. Suddenly a bit self-conscious I wondered if I was moving properly or if I looked like a strange caterpillar, as it was certainly descriptive of the way I felt.
We planned I would have the treatment across two sessions, and so I returned that Friday to finish up my process. In the in between, which was only one day - a Thursday...I felt a gentle nagging pain in my spine. Genna explained that it was likely because energy had pooled there as we had asked it to be released from those acupuncture points but hadn't finished the job entirely. With a bit more time with the same placements of needles I was back to processing out the remainder of the Aggressive Energy. It was the same zen, delicious feeling of leveling out my energies and really detoxing my organs of excess energy that didn't serve. After completing both processes, I have felt it is easier to stay on task and on track with very healthy eating and water consumption habits. My mental clarity around my routine and priorities has cleared up and most importantly my creative impulses and visions have returned and I feel like I can write, create, and envision all that I wish to accomplish. Something that was severely limited in the moments just after my grandmother passed away. On the physical side of things my headaches have not returned and my digestive issues have cleared up. I felt the day after the first treatment that there was less bloating in my abdomen and that my tummy now was softer and hung between my hip bones like a hammock.
I have so much gratitude for meeting Genna and being able to experience her unique gift for intuitive healing of others through acupuncture. She knew on an unspoken level just what I'd been through, what I was fighting, and helped prompt my body, mind, and spirit to do what it does best.....heal ITSELF.
The oldest Kardashian sister unveiled a dreamy new collab on her lifestyle website, Poosh. The trio of sisters have been notorious if not infamous for selling everything from body shaping garments to books and everything in between. 2019, however, saw an attention to on brand and creatively directed products and goods. Kourtney Kardashian unveiled her lifestyle site Poosh this past year, and after it comes a steady stream of collabs and product designs.
Kourtney went on to say that the blend helped heal her, and lessen her labored breathing - and not only that...it helped boost her mood. She wanted the diffuser to come with its own special Poosh blend, which she blended with Saje to include notes of lavender and geranium which are known for their calming and soothing aura. The scent deepens with warmth due to orange, grapefruit, and palmarosa oils which are uplifting and energizing. Rose and ylang ylang add a sexy, floral depth. Kardashian uses this scent as a signature home scent and leaves her Saje diffuser timed to emit scent for 7 hour stretches at a time.
The collaboration between Kourt's Poosh brand and Saje is a natural fit. The Canadian company's motto is that they are "a 100% natural company built on the healing power of plants". It's a well known fact by now that Kourt is a huge advocate for all things organic, and to Kim Kardashian's chagrin - gluten free, and this diffuser collab is no exception. Going for an adobe style finish, the diffuser is sculptural and fits in with home decor to be a centerpiece - not just an appliance on a shelf.
Personally, I love tea tree oil and orange blossom in my diffuser when I have a head cold and can often only find relief through oil diffused air, steaming, zinc tablets, and herbal tea. I absolutely relate to Kourtney's sentiment that not only are the surface symptoms treat - but you feel a bit of bounce in your step return. I don't use the Poosh x Saje diffuser but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't considering it for purchase. You can pick up the diffuser in your choice of Grey or White, here: https://shop.poosh.com/products/positively-poosh-ultrasonic-diffuser-kit-white
A person, we shall call him "Adam" had been a meditation practitioner for many years before turning to a doctor for his depression. Adam had been a member of a spiritual community that encouraged their members to turn to God through prayer and meditation whenever it occurred that they were feeling any difficult or painful feelings; for instance: anger, hurt, anxiety, or depression. He had been taught that Spirit would transmute his feelings for him and bring him the peace he so deeply wanted - and all Adam had to do was turn over these feelings to God.
Yet Adam remained depressed despite believing deeply in the practice of turning his difficult feelings over to God to transmute and take care of for him. Adam thought to himself, and occasionally lamented to his doctor and spiritual community members “I have faithfully practiced that which I’ve been taught, so why is is it that I still suffer from depression? What could it be that I'm doing wrong?"
Adam was suffering from the misaligned expectations for what he should feel and be responsible for due to a belief that spiritual practice should take all of his responsibility for these emotions away. This phenomenon is referred to as “spiritual bypass.”
Spiritual bypass occurs when individuals use their spiritual practice as a tool to avoid dealing with and taking responsibility for their feelings and emotions. It can be said that anything that is used to avoid feeling and taking responsibility for one's emotions becomes an addiction – whether that thing or tool used is alcohol, drugs, food, TV, work, gambling, spending, shopping, anger, withdrawal…and YES, even meditation. If you find yourself in that pattern that when a difficult or painful feeling comes up for your awareness, you opt to go into meditation in the hopes of blissing out and getting rid of the feeling, you may be addicted to spirituality. It is an avoidance and escapist technique and if it blocks or diverts someone from dealing with or feeling unpleasant or even dreaded emotions, it can become an addiction.
The difference between leveraging meditation for true healing and self understanding and leveraging it for escapist purposes depends solely on intent. Generally speaking, human beings can meditate for two very different reasons: either to avoid pain or to learn about love.
If one's intent behind meditating is to connect with one's inner self and one's spiritual Guidance in order to learn more about loving themselves and others, then meditation can be good way to step outside of the cerebral and intellectual mind and into one's heart space. This practice is a sound way to connect with the loving inner part of one's self so that you may welcome and embrace even the painful feelings and learning and discovering how you may contributing to your own pain through your words and actions. When your intention is to practice self love and take ownership of your own feelings, in that case meditation can help center you and put you in a space for self compassion so that you may do the inner work to explore your internal feelings.
In the transverse, if you find you are leveraging meditation to bliss out and avoid feeling and moving through your pain, you are leveraging and leaning on your spirituality in an addictive pattern. You are then actively using your spirituality to get around learning about and taking self ownership for your emotional spectrum.
To return to the example, this is what Adam was doing. As he was avoiding learning from his feelings,
and avoiding particular breakthroughs...the ways in which he continued to behave toward himself and others around him caused him to feel depressed. As a result, rather than exploring the words and actions that were causing his feeling self, or his inner child, to feel trapped in a state of depression, he was meditating to push away and bypass any feelings. Instead chasing the bliss.
In his work with a psychologist, Adam was able to discover that he was constantly either ignoring his inner child – his feeling self – or he was in a state of self-judgment. This combination of ignoring himself – which he engaged in primarily through meditation – and judging himself resulted in his inner child feeling unloved, unimportant, and especially unseen. In reflection, Adam saw that if he treated his actual children in the way he treated himself through his treatment of his inner child – ignoring their feelings and constantly judging them – they would also feel unloved and depressed. Adam did attend to his actual children’s feelings and needs, and it was merely his own that he was ignoring and judging. This comparison and parallel let him see exactly how he had been off track in his thinking and treatment of self.
Adam came to the realization that he was treating himself the way his parents had treated him. By anyone's estimation Adam was a much better parent to his children than his parents had been with him, but through what he had internalized about himself and the attention to needs and self he deserved - he was parenting his own inner child in the way he had been parented. What's more, not only was he treating himself the way he had been treated as a child, but he was treating himself the way his parents had treated themselves regarding their feelings and emotional management. For this reason, Adam was not being a good role model for his children regarding personal emotional responsibility, just as his parents had been a poor role model for him.
Through his dedicated inner work, Adam learned the Inner Bonding process. Adam learned to welcome his painful feelings during meditation and to sit with them. He learned to quiet the self-judgmental part of himself and to engage with himself with loving care and respect. He learned to take loving action in his own best interests so that his inner child would not feel that sense of abandonment from him. It was truly the inner abandonment that was causing his depression the whole time. Adam discovered that his depression was actually a gift, a teacher, a light to illuminate what was still dark – a way his inner child was tell him that he was not being loving with himself. With mindful action, Adam learned to take loving care of himself and his depression disappeared. He could now use meditation and inner connection as a tool to explore and take inventory of his feelings, his true feelings - he no longer misused meditation as a tool for spiritual bypass.
Although you may feel as though you are totally alone in this life, it is believed and felt that there are Divine Companions whom are always with us. Before each incarnation, they choose to accompany us through this particular lifetime - from the moment we enter the world and until we leave. Spirit Guides are high vibrational and extremely evolved beings who have completed the cycle of birth and death in the physical plane and now serve as teachers, guides, and protectors to further elevate their vibrations even higher. The exchange is positive and assists both the spirit guide's soul, and the human being's soul to evolve and elevate in vibration through positive choices.
These guides work to assist you in processing and making sense of the guidance in your dreams and in your intuition. The quiet voice you hear in your head is often the voice of these teachers and guides. Additionally, they may make their presence known to you through signs and symbols. For me personally, seeing specific flowers, seeing anything from the Khmer culture repeatedly, or hearing certain songs reminds me of my spirit guide. As she was a Khmer noblewoman with very highly attuned spiritual gifts and a keen sense for if people are spinning the truth or not. An ability that I have and work diligently myself to improve daily.
Many people have only one guide, while others have multiple guides or a small team around them. Much of the structure of your guides participation depends on the distinct path and purpose of your life. A teacher, for instance, may have several guides, one in order to assist them through the academic aspects of their profession and another to assist them with the distinct emotional aspects of being a mentor for younger people. Police officers, firefighters, and soldiers will often have a "team" of guardians guiding and protecting them in the line of duty. Much of who your guide was is indicative of your own personal journey through life.
Despite popular belief, a spirit guide is almost never a passed over love one. Our loved ones DO stay with us in spirit, and we can contact them as we'd like - but they do not serve the same role as a spirit guide. Some individuals may have archangels or angels as spirit guides who are always with them. Yet, the presence of angels, it is important to remember, does not mean they are your permanent spirit guide. Angels can always be called on in times of distress to assist you for a short while. In the case that you do have an angel or archangel as your spirit guide or on your spirit based team of guides - changes are your mission in life is a complex one. You may be an individual traveling a challenging life path, if you have an angel as a spirit guide.
Everyone's spirit guide is always with them, whether the individual acknowledges their presence or not. We cannot call guides to us, nor can we send away the ones that we have at our will. They are a part of us and our particular journey. We do however have the ability to gain knowledge of who they are and what their role in our lives is and will be. We can always interact with our guides in proactive ways. If we'd like to know whom they are, we must simply just ask once we are in a quiet and meditative place. Whatever is revealed to us is their identity and key factors about who they are. Beings from the spiritual realm often send messages through signs and symbols.If you see a man wearing a nice suit, stay with that image as the person could be a philosopher or a seasoned businessperson. You may see an indigenous American, a monk, or perhaps no visual comes through - it's just key to keep your mind and intuition wide open to what you could see. If you have challenges discovering who your guide is, you can contact a psychic or intuitive sketch artist to help you. I had great luck working with Ros Coleman at http://www.roscoleman.com
Taking a proactive role in working with your guides can be a wonderful personal and spiritual growth tool. Unlike the beings who can advise us in the physical realm, the wisdom and advice of guides is not influenced by the nuances and petty things of this world. They reside in a higher vibrational realm, and the mundane aspects of your existence aren't factored in by them. As an example, if you seek guidance from your spirit guide regarding your romantic partner, the guide will ask you to focus on in what ways you are growing, what you are learning, what is left to learn, and what learning your partner is gathering from the relationship. This will get at the root and the true meaning of your relationship. The mundane aspects of it such as your partner being terrible at budgeting household finances or that they are messy with putting away or organizing their clothing is seen as irrelevant and petty.
Most incredibly, you can ask your guides to assist you in physical healing. Before you go to sleep for the night, ask that your guide helps you to receive healing as you are sleeping. You are never alone, your guide is there with you. Take refuge in knowing deeply that there is so much magic and healing to be found in this life at every turn.
THE GLOW CHIEF
Hi! I'm Mischaela, AKA the "Glow Chief" (THE GC) the creator of Inner Glow Up!